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Meghan
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In short, yes, I would like to have kids some day. In more depth, I have a lot of fears about having kids. First off, there is a fear of what pregnancy will do to my body. I'm not just talking about the morning sickness and pain of birth, but also all the weird internal smushing of organs and swelling and such. I like my body, but will it be permanently changed by carrying a child? On the flip side, there is also the fear that we'll have trouble conceiving and will have to consider other options such as adoption.
My second fear is, will I ever be ready to raise a child? Career-wise? Financially? Emotionally? I suppose you're never 100% ready on all counts. I think my finance will want to have kids before I do. He's already brought up the idea of having a baby while he's still in the military so they pay for everything. Timeframe-wise, that seems way too soon for me. I want to have a few years of being married sans kids.
My last fear has to do with the fact that bringing a baby into the world means that new person is going to be around for a very long time (if all goes well). I worry that I will end up feeling like a slave to my kids and have no life of my own while they are growing up. I got very freaked out when my fiance and I spent a weekend with a friend of his who has three kids (now four!), and the wife seemed so trapped at home. I don't want that to be me. I also worry about how the dynamic between my spouse and me will change with a child. He's already baby crazy and flirts with little kids (just to be clear, I mean that in a non-pervert kind of way). When we have our own kids, will he love them more than he loves me?
So there you go. I laid it all out there.
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