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The love adults have for one another, in the sense of a lover of spouse, is quite different from the love of a child.


Dear, god, no! I did not intend to say that all love is sexual love. Sex is not the beginning of love. I was referring to the fact that people fall fiercely in love with other people who are not their relatives. They can be girl/boyfriends, regular friends, or children. And that (non-sexual) love comes from the same place.

Love does transcend DNA...I have read about and seen instances of love even cutting across species. Cats have adopted abandoned puppies, and vice-versa. Even one instance of a bird adopting a cat has happened. Even the case of people having pets and treating them like their own children is rampant.

People have built true-blue families out of non-related people all the time. There are families that have done massive adoptions so a family of siblings wouldn't be split up. That alone takes a lot of money to do per year. It sure isn't for the adopting family's health. Some of these adoptions go across racial lines also.

I remember reading an article about a unoffical adoption in Vietnam. There was a boy and his uncle who were making their way across a war-torn part of the country, and they were looking for the boy's father. They end up in a little town with no gas. The man askes the gas attendant, a woman, to give him gas even tho he had no money. He said he would give the boy to the woman as collateral until he could go to his home village and get enough money to come back. The woman agrees, and the uncle leaves...to never come back. He may have just run away, or he may have been ambushed and killed, or died in some other way. Anyway, the lady kept this boy as her own son, and it has been that way since.

I think we just hear about the bad adoptions rather than the good ones. Good adoptions are a given...loved adopted kids know they are loved...and they don't go running across rooftops screaming, my parents love me! Me! They actually love me!

The un-loved adopted kids know it...and it cuts deep, and is scarring. Especially if they add in the factor of DNA.

There are other factors like, do they really love me as much as the others (biological kids) because I'm not really "theirs"? And sometimes they use that as leverage if they really believe it.

So anyway, if you still don't believe me....then at least be honest and never adopt. It won't help the kid at all if you truly feel that you won't love that kid as much as your own biological ones.